Monday, December 14, 2009
|10:48 AM|
Inferiority Complex
a rather complex manifestation of feelings and emotions.
it is also noted in the link of negative thoughts where it can stem into other things.
But how does this exactly begin?
In my opinion, this complex isn't one that is built up overnight. I've observed that people living in more competitive societies or working/studying in them have a higher tendency to display this kind of behavior.
It boils down to the state of meritocracy where a grade determines all but some parts of a person's credentials. Sad to say, singapore like many other, belongs to a group where people without a 'paper' document, would do hard to survive in the ever busy rat race of the society.
To define a person by his 'A's" or "F's", this, i find has led to much division of thought in the people. Even among friends, its seemingly impossible NOT to do any comparison with one another.
Take for example a simple class quiz, upon receipt of the results, most natural behaviour would constitute finding out how well they performed in comparison to others. Not to say, but its the way the education system is based on.
Scaling up, even in terms of income, positive attributes in relationships aka selling points, humans still fall in the world of comparison.
To compare and compete with one another, thats the inescapable route of the future to come. With all due respect, if there were no such competition, the world would just stagnate and cease to evolve.
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Upon talking about the topic, I too, find myself entrenched in the swirling contortions of comparison. In grades, in relationships, and in many other things.
I realise in grades, theres nothing much to fault apart from my own lack of discipline to study and focus (which i lost during secondary school, sadly)
but in other aspects of myself, i find myself quite a creep. Talking to blubber the other day when she had a quarrel with her boyfriend over some certain qualities of him, i realised to myself," hey, i ain't much different from him!" But having to prior experience, i dare not think how i would behave in the event that i do get into a relationship. Kinda scary huh...
It takes a real man to not be jealous and one with a very big heart at that!
I know, i don't fit the bill of that :)
Sometimes, when i idle, i find myself thinking and comparing myself to others. And its not always happy to think about that... don't want to elaborate much about this, but if you really want to know, come find me or talk to me in messenger.
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to be able to spend a little more time with you everyday and seeing you smile, that would be the greatest reward of all
